Masturbation is a silent pleasure that may people engage in. it is their getaway sexual fantasy and unfortunately they always end up feeling guilty afterwards. Masturbation is said to be healthy but unfortunately it is very addictive can destroy a person.
Can you be addicted to masturbation?
Yes, masturbation is a common sexual addiction that affects men and women alike. Masturbation is a healthy part of sexual exploration during childhood development. Sometimes a person turns to masturbation as a form of self-medication to deal with stress or trauma. When masturbation becomes a method of escape, this can set the stage for an addictive pattern.
What is compulsive masturbation ?
Masturbation addiction commonly referred to as compulsive masturbation can be very secretive and isolating. A man or woman can compulsively masturbate with or without pornography and the behaviors can be very different. Some people may masturbate as part of their daily routine while others may binge masturbate. Binge masturbation involves spending several hours masturbating while watching porn or fantasizing. Compulsive masturbation usually lacks intimacy and often can lead to a lot of shame.
Individuals who are addicted to masturbation need help. They usually cannot say so because the subject itself is still taboo to many but an addiction is an addiction. There are physical and emotional aspects to masturbation addiction.
Masturbation Addiction – Physical Aspects
As mentioned above, the “high” from masturbation addiction comes from the flood of chemicals that are released into the brain during orgasm. As the brain begins to crave this “high,” the addict trains himself to climax quicker and more often. In addition, the addict becomes accustomed to the sensations of masturbation, sometimes to the point that “normal” sexual activity is not satisfying. Woody Allen had a line in one of his movies: “I’m good at sex; I practice a lot when I’m alone.” While that may come across as a funny line, it underscores the physical problem with masturbation. By practicing masturbation, the addict becomes accomplished at short, intense activity with a quick climax. Unfortunately, this isn’t very satisfying to a spouse in a sexual relationship.
Masturbation Addiction – Emotional/Spiritual Aspects
Masturbation, by its very nature, is a selfish act. Since you are having sex with yourself, there is no need to please anyone else. The emotional nature tends to follow the same course. As sex becomes little more than another way to meet your own physical needs, the tendency is to ignore the emotional needs of your spouse as well. She becomes nothing more than an object for your sexual satisfaction. In my own marriage, this led to a point where I didn’t need my wife physically or emotionally, so I started to completely shut down from her. This led to separation and divorce after 13 years of marriage.
Many people are looking for a way out of this terrible addiction. Why is it terrible? Because it kills your chance of ever being intimate sexually with another person. There are those who have defined masturbation as an act of selfishness. One sure way of starting to stop is by admitting that you do have a problem.
How to Stop a Masturbation Addiction
Admitting the Addiction
As with other addictions, the first step needed to stop a masturbation addiction requires admitting that the obsession exists. This sounds simple, but an addict’s mind devises many ways to remain in denial; often, people fool even themselves because their minds will do everything possible to protect the addiction.
For most people, admitting powerlessness, especially over sexual addictions, raises feelings of fear, shame, embarrassment and disgust. However, acknowledging the addiction can bring great relief. Recovered masturbation addicts liken the feeling to the overwhelming weight of a boulder finally removed from their shoulders. Once a person admits the addiction, the process of stopping has already begun.
Discovering the True Problem
During masturbation, the brain releases incredibly potent chemicals that temporarily provide comfort, relaxation and freedom from stress. These feelings lead addicts to use masturbation as a form of self-medication, compensation for a life out of control or escape from fear. The deeper issues masked by a masturbation compulsion are as varied as are individual addicts. Anxiety, depression, feelings of inadequacy and obsessive-compulsive disorder identify only a few of the issues.